Give yourself permission to be selfish.
I believe that compassion does not start at home as the famous saying goes. Compassion starts with ‘the self’.
Only when you put your own oxygen mask on first that you can help others around you. Otherwise you will eventually run out of oxygen helping others and be useful to no one. You owe it to yourself, your family and friends and the world to be self-compassionate.
Take care of your inner and outer self and you’ll find the energy, willingness and drive to help others.