Category: You

Every IT technician has the same first question. Before they look at anything, before they run diagnostics, before they even ask what’s wrong — “Have you tried turning it off and on again?”

And it works. Almost embarrassingly often, it works.

We accept this without question for our devices. Overheating laptop? Reboot. Frozen phone? Hold the button, restart. We know that a system running too hot, too long, without a reset — eventually stops functioning the way it should.

So why don’t we apply this to ourselves?

When we’re exhausted, running on fumes, pushing through back-to-back days — we don’t unplug. We caffeinate. We push harder. We schedule a vacation six months out and tell ourselves we’ll rest then. Meanwhile the system is overheating.

The unplug doesn’t have to be a two-week holiday. It can be twenty minutes. A walk. A nap. A genuine laugh with someone you like. Play that has no productive outcome whatsoever. Meditation. Sitting outside without your phone. Whatever “off” looks like for you.

The point is the wait. The actual pause before you re-engage. Not a five-second restart — a real one.

Computers don’t feel guilty about rebooting. They don’t apologize for needing a reset. They just do it, come back cleaner, and work better.

You already know this works. You just need to apply it to the most important system you’re running.

People talk about “finding themselves” as if the self is somewhere out there, waiting to be discovered. A new city, a new career, a new relationship — and maybe that’s where the answer lives.

But I don’t think it works that way.

All of it — meditation, spirituality, sitting quietly with nothing to do and nowhere to be, genuine reflection — what it’s actually doing is removing dust. That’s it. The dust of other people’s expectations. The dust of habits you picked up without choosing them. The dust of noise that’s been accumulating since you were old enough to be told who you should be.

The self underneath isn’t lost. It’s just covered.

When you sit still long enough, when you stop performing and planning and reacting — something becomes clearer. Not a revelation from the outside. Something from the inside that was already there. Your actual perspective on things. What genuinely matters to you, not what you’ve been told should matter. The particular way you see the world that no one else quite sees the same way.

That’s your truth. And it was never missing.

The reason practices like meditation feel profound isn’t because they add anything. It’s because they subtract. Less noise, less reactivity, less borrowed identity — and gradually, you start to see yourself more accurately. Your real strengths. Your actual values. What you bring to the world that’s genuinely yours.

The truth is within. It always has been. It just needs clarity to surface — and clarity doesn’t come from doing more. It comes from pausing long enough to let the dust settle.

For most of my life, when someone said “I need to meditate on that,” I assumed it was just a fancy way of saying they needed more time to think. Same thing, different words.

It’s not the same thing at all.

Thinking is an active process. You weigh options, run scenarios, argue with yourself, look for evidence. It’s useful when there’s a right answer that logic can uncover. But a lot of the decisions we actually struggle with aren’t like that. Whether to leave a job, end a relationship, take a leap on something unproven — these aren’t math problems. They’re gut problems.

And your gut doesn’t respond well to being cross-examined.

That’s where meditation comes in — not as a productivity hack or a stress reliever, but as a way to go inward. To stop the noise long enough for something deeper to surface. The answers to those kinds of decisions are already inside you. They’re just buried under anxiety, second-guessing, and the pressure to be rational about everything.

When you meditate on a decision, you’re not analyzing it. You’re releasing it. You’re creating the quiet that lets the right answer come forward on its own.

There’s a reason people with great instincts — experienced leaders, wise elders, anyone you’d describe as having good judgment — tend not to rush their decisions. They sit with things. They let clarity come to them rather than hunting it down.

So the next time you’re stuck on something that isn’t a factual question — something that comes down to who you are and what you actually want — try not to think about it. Meditate on it instead. Get still, get quiet, and trust that what you need to know is already in there.

It usually is.

It’s not always a good idea to “go for it”. Sometimes you just need to Reset.

There is a concept of resetting the point when it comes to playing a sport (specially racquet sports) against an opponent. If you get into a position where you cannot hit a winner nor can you hit a dominating shot, you need to reset the point.

Resetting just means that you are giving the other person a bit of an easy ball but not something they can kill either and dominate you. It’s meant to reset the point so you can get back into position with the ability to dominate offensively. So ideally, when you reset the ball, nobody gets the point on the next shot. The competition continues on the shots after that as you wait for the right timing to “go for it “.

This is the same thing in life as well. Sometimes you just need to reset yourself and the situation. Instead of going on the offense all the time, sometimes you just need to reset your mind, body and soul.

Resetting this way clears up any bad energy present and makes space for good energy to come naturally. Then when you feel that good energy present in your mind, body and soul, that’s the time to go on the offense and “go for it!”

The path to success goes through getting good at being resilient to failure, ridicule and hearing the word “no” and being OK with that.

That’s what sets apart extraordinary folks compared to the ordinary 99% of the population.

Don’t have time to work out but sick of what you see in the mirror?

Do this:
Whenever you have enough motivation and a few minutes to spare, go to a place where you have a few feet to move around, put your AirPods / earbuds in your ears and then start a motivational song from your playlist.

Do body based only exercises such as squats, donkey kicks, push-ups, sit-ups, and whatever else that does not require any special weights or equipment. Just rotate through things while listening to your body all the way through until the song ends.

That’s it. Take out the earbuds and go back to whatever you were doing before.

Extra bonus: workout to two songs 😊

Starting this simple routine and doing this once or twice a day will produce results you will not believe.

What do you answer when someone asks you: how are you doing? (The infamous question we all get asked all the time right..)

Do you complain? Do you just say “good”? Do you wonder if you should focus on the good or the bad in your life? Do you feel hesitant not knowing what to really say and how deep to go? Do you just wish people stop asking you..??

We all go through this. And this question will never stop.

So what do you do?

Well, first thing is to understand the intention of the other person. Most people will just ask the “how are you” question just to get the conversation started because they don’t know any other way.

Others who truly care about how you are feeling most probably do not want a detailed step-by-step explanation of why you are feeling what you are feeling. They are just looking for a temperature check.

Either way, what you say to answer this question will actually manifest itself.
The universe is always listening. Believe it!

If you say you’re feeling terrible or how crappy of a day you are having, the universe will take that as a command and make things even crappier for you.
(and honestly the other person asking the question most probably can’t do much about your crappy day anyway so they will just say a word of sympathy and move on)

If you say wonderful or blessed or any other type of response that portrays gratitude for what you have, the universe will take that as a command also and give you more of that.

So why not just go with the second option and always speak words of gratitude? Chances are that you are better off than billions of people in this world anyway who would love to trade places with you if given a chance. So appreciate that and count your blessings 😊

I recently had a chat with an 87-year-old who looks and acts like a 65-year-old. He told me the key to his vitality: just keep moving forward.

Such great advice. I have found the same to be true in my life as well. It’s often that we get stuck in our minds and in our ways. The only way to get unstuck is to change our context and keep moving forward.

To do your best work, you gotta forget about the audience.

Just like any tournament you participate in, any competition you compete in, if you focus on what will the audience think of you, you are for sure to not do your best because now you’re thinking about how others perceive of you instead of going for your best effort.

It’s the same with life. If you just focus on your activities, your mission, your effort, instead of worrying about others, you will feel a lot more satisfaction at the end.

Let others think about the audience and be limited. You do “You” and what’s in your hand and watch the magic unfold.

You’re a kid. Everybody loves you and adores you. You feel like the universe revolves around you.

But then you get older and the adults don’t adore you anymore because you’re a grown up too now and they expect you to act like one – no matter your accomplishments.

No it is very much about – “What have you done for me lately?”

Aside from your immediate family, those who care for you and adore you only do so because of the way you make them feel and not because how awesome you are.

If you think about it, many of the characters that are portrayed as villains and films are very accomplished individuals who are smart, with grand ideas, and lots of money.

The one thing that all these villains have in common: selfishness.

They’re doing it all for themselves and their own ambitions and beliefs. Most of them don’t see themselves as villains either and have very strong beliefs that they feel are true.

So if you want to be accepted by society and acknowledged for who you are as you get older, remember that it’s not about you. It’s about the greater good and the society as a whole.

No one cares about you or your accomplishments.

They only care about how you make them feel with your words and actions.