Let’s get one thing straight: you deserve what you want. Not just the basics. Not just what’s “reasonable.” You deserve the full spectrum of joy, success, love, peace—whatever it is—as long as it doesn’t come at someone else’s expense. That’s a key detail, but outside of that? Don’t hold back.
Somewhere along the line, many of us picked up the idea that wanting too much is selfish. That if we’re not struggling, we’re doing something wrong. Meanwhile, the loud, entitled types—the narcissists of the world—walk around taking what they want without a second thought. And guess what? They rarely feel guilty.
But here’s the truth: wanting something good for yourself doesn’t make you bad. Guilt often creeps in not because we’re wrong, but because we’ve been trained to doubt our own worth. It’s a subtle form of self-sabotage—one that we need to stop feeding.
Fear doesn’t just mess with your mind, it impacts your body. When you’re afraid, your immune system weakens. Your energy drops. Your decision-making falters. That’s nature’s way of waving a big red flag: don’t go down this path. Fear tells you to shrink. But you’re not meant to live small. You’re meant to expand. That instinct you have to reach for more, to dream bigger? That’s not ego—it’s life calling you forward.
At its root, guilt is a rejection of your own innocence. It’s this nagging voice saying you have to earn joy, prove your worth, or suffer before you can be happy. But that’s not truth—it’s conditioning. You are inherently worthy. Period. Your desires don’t need a permission slip. As long as your wants don’t harm others, they are valid, and so are you.
You don’t need to wait for someone else to tell you it’s okay. You can want what you want. You can go after it boldly. You can feel good about it, guilt-free. The next time guilt or fear tries to creep in, remind yourself: you are worth it. You deserve it. Whatever it is.